It’s hard to set boundaries with those you care about. I go in circles: I feel bad when I draw the line, angry I’m doing this to myself when I don’t. Who else struggles with this?
Not only is ‘It’s none of my business’ a polite boundary setting, it’s a great mantra. Have you ever been tempted to cross your own boundary, but you know it’s not going to do you any good? I’ve repeated this line over and over, usually where an ex was concerned.
What is a boundary? It’s a limit, defining what is and what’s not, what in and what’s out. Or in plain English, where the buck stops. The Romans built Hadrian’s wall in the northern part of their empire that would become Britain. Within: respectable citizens of the empire. Without: barbarians. […]